Why You Shouldn’t Make New Year’s Resolutions In 2012 (Plus A Sane Way To Create & Achieve Goals)
That’s right. You shouldn’t make New Year’s Resolutions for 2012.
They help solidify a habit of creating goals that you’re not ready to achieve and so you fail to reach your goals. After this happens a few times people are trained to believe that it’s perfectly acceptable to set goals and never achieve them.
Don’t get me wrong – if you weigh 500 pounds then having a long-term goal to lose 200 pounds is a probably a good thing. But very few people are able to achieve a long term goal of this magnitude (no pun intended) without setting & achieving numerous small goals.
Badge of honor
For some it even becomes a badge of honor, “Oh yah, I just can’t keep my resolutions or reach my goals! It’s just who I am.”
Worse yet, we let friends and family make these kinds of statements and we don’t tell them how ridiculous they sound. And our silence validates their false notion that they can’t achieve goals.
Other issues with New Year’s Resolutions
- Goals are poorly defined i.e. I’m gonna lose a bunch of weight in 2012.
How much exactly is a bunch? When you go to the bathroom you technically lose weight, maybe even a bunch, so have you reached your goal after your next toilet flush?
- Waiting until December 31st to change your life is
pretty dumbjust plain stupid.
If you realize in March that you need to change your eating habits then make a change in March!
- People have 37 goals but frequently don’t reach any of them.
A Sane Way To Create & Achieve Goals
- Figure out what you really want to achieve
i.e. I want to look good and feel good when my alarm wakes me up at 6am. It’s crucial that you focus on the end result and not on the time it will take.
- Pick 1 thing to achieve. Unless you regularly achieve goals you should only focus on 1 thing at a time.
- Set an easy goal that can be achieved in 1 day
i.e. Eating fewer than 3,000 calories today, Walk 1 flight of stairs today, Read for 10 minutes today.
- Slowly increase the time your goal lasts
i.e. After you successfully go 1 day eating fewer than 3,000 calories, then set a goal to do it for 2 days. If you cannot do it for 2 days then go back to doing it for 1 day. Once you can do 2 days, then do it 4 days, then a week, and so on.
- Slowly increase what is required to achieve your goal.
i.e After you successfully go for a week eating fewer than 3,000/day make a goal to eat fewer than 2,700 calories for 1 day, then 2 days, then 4 days, etc.
- Celebrate every time you reach a goal.